Since it’s Father’s Day on June 16, we talked to a few mums to do a quick check on just how involved today’s dads are with babycare…
We all know that it is important for a dad to help with the baby. He might get the diaper on backwards or come to the verge of tears when the baby howls in hunger or simply place the kid in a motorised swing while he watches sports. However, except for not being able to breastfeed, your husband can do everything it takes to care for a baby just as well as you can, especially if he gets some practice. So, how often does he come to your aid? We spoke to a few mums to know how helpful their partners are with their babies…
mum to Tanisha, one and a half
Manoj is an amazing husband and father to Tanisha. I have to admit that, initially, I was scared to play the role of a mother. That’s when he took charge of the baby. We had also hired a nanny for Tanisha. He learnt everything from the nanny, right from diaper changing to swaddling. He used to wake up in the middle of the night to calm her down every time she cried. One of his best qualities was the way he used to sit beside me while I breastfed the baby. He was the one who started feeding her solid food. Even today, if Tanisha throws a tantrum, I can always count on Manoj to take care of the situation. He takes her out for a walk to bring a change in her mood. After returning home from outdoors and after she’s had her meal, it is Manoj’s responsibility to clean her up. He has always been there for me and Tanisha.
mum to Diya, two
I had to let go of control and allow Chandrashekhar to take care of our daughter the way he wanted to with some guidance from me rather than get him scared of taking care of the baby that he would not want to do so. There are times when I do have to remind him to do certain things ie. bedtime, but he is learning and doing great. As soon as he gets home from work, the first thing he does is goes straight for the baby. I don’t have to ask. He helps her dress up and combs her hair. If I am tired, he stays with the baby so I can sleep. We make a great team.
mum to Shriyan, five
My husband Sanjay is very helpful. I honestly couldn’t accept anything less. In the beginning, when I was nursing, I used to stay up all night long but he was still very helpful with chores, meals and baby stuff during the day. When he has an off, he feeds Shriyan and lays him down for his afternoon nap. He helps our son to get dressed and takes him out to play. He entertains him as I cook breakfast and cleans up too. He has been there to comfort Shriyan whenever he’s been sick. He has also accompanied me for Shriyan’s vaccination routines. He does a pretty good job at making me feel like I have a teammate to help with our baby. We work
best when together.
mum to Muskan, five
When Muskan was an infant, Aman would only play with her. He was never comfortable being alone with her for more than a few hours. But he would help me with the household chores so I could feed, change and bathe her. As she got older, he would play more and get involved in feeding her and changing her diapers. He used to leave early for work and take her to playschool in the morning and also pick her up, since his work schedule is more flexible than mine. Now, Muskan is five and he spends the whole day with her. While I help her with her homework, he manages the kitchen work. I am very grateful for everything he does. M&B
Words Sahana Bhandari
Visuals Mother & Baby Picture Library