It is a well known fact that adult interpersonal behaviors are imitated and imbibed by children. These, in turn, influence their future social interactions.
Another consideration is that children need consistency in supervision and guidance techniques used by the parents despite the latter’s’ personal grievances or unfavorable circumstances, to allow a tension free and positive learning environment for the child.
Thus, if a mother maintains an overall consistency in the upbringing of her child, it will not leave any undesirable, lasting effect on the latter.
Following are key suggestions to help mothers along the way.
- Help your child to express her autonomy as she learns through the processes of exploration, examination and discovery of the environment.
- Set controls within limits of safety and maturity of your child, without making her feel guilty and ashamed.
- Be patient with your child and do not speed up her activities due to time and your personal constraints.
- Your child needs to follow a set routine and have some quality time with you. Preparing a time table will help.
- Follow through on what you have told your child. It will help her to maintain consistency in learning the do’s and don’ts. It will also promote trust and demonstrate that you love her.
- Avoid fighting over differences/conflicts with other adults, in front of your child. This will only confuse and upset her, and may give her wrong ideas about conflict resolutions.
- Be a consistent and positive role model to your child because she learns by imitating adult roles and functioning.
- From time to time conduct a self awareness exercise to help you be a better person (read mom).
- Last, but not the least, find ways to:
1. Improve yourself as a person.
2. Improve your parenting skills.
- Most of all feel happy and worthy of yourself!
All the best!