If you are looking to hone your skills as a caring mom, look no further.
Here are three behaviors which are simple yet powerful enough to help you make a “quality” shift in bringing up your children.
The behaviors are:
We know that being proactive means to create or control a situation rather than just respond to it after it has happened. This approach allows us to stop issues from becoming “problems”, among other things.
Some situations calling for proactive behaviors from moms are:
*Addressing sibling rivalry.
*Setting screen time limits.
*Introducing new or healthy foods.
When you are being proactive it is important to keep in mind the following:
- Begin your intervention gradually, before a “situation” starts, gets out of hand or turns into a “problem” behavior in your child.
- Be consistent in your expectations and disciplining.
- Be firm when necessary, especially as children are prone to pleading with soulful eyes!
- Involve your child in the decision making process as and when required because he/she gets a chance to make joint decisions with you and thereby has to abide by them. Do remember to carry this out at your child’s level.
Providing quality time
We need to set aside some quality time for children. It should be daily, no matter how busy we are. The time span is not important as much as utilizing it fruitfully for your child. If you have two children, do give them individual quality time.
The quality time provides a lot of benefits such as:
- You build a strong bond with your child due to a shared experience without any distraction or interference from any source.
- Your child feels free to talk or engage in an activity of his/her choice (or decided together), with you.
- Your child develops a feeling of well being and happiness as he/she basks in your love and attention!
In your daily interactions, you may often face situations when you cannot answer your child’s questions or you evade telling him/her the truth e.g. when you leave home without your child.
When you do not know the answer to your child’s question, it is alright to say “I don’t know. I will try to find an answer as soon as I can”. After the assurance, it is important to get back to your child (at the earliest), with or without the answer, and tell the truth accordingly.
The most important benefits are as follows:
- Your child will always approach you for answers because he/she knows you will not disappoint them with made up answers.
- Your child will always approach you due to your truthfulness and his/her trust in you.
- Most of all, your child will learn from you that it is all right to say “I don’t know” instead of prevaricating.
So, go ahead Moms use these three “quality” behaviors to enhance your child rearing skills.