According to the well known Developmental Psychologist and Psycho analyst, Erik Erikson, children (6 to 12 yrs), like others at different stages of Life, have to face and resolve conflicts and Identity crisis in their lives.
The school environment, classmates, family life, social, sports, and extra- curricular activities lend themselves to creating an ‘Industrious’(read competent) child or one with a feeling of Inferiority which can spill over in Adolescence and Adulthood.
Thus, Pride in their accomplishments and Successful resolution of social and emotional conflicts and crisis issues, make for competent and well adjusted children.
- Children are competitive and try to copy tasks and behaviors of their peers, with an aim to succeed at them. They also try to see how they measure up to their peers.
- They may go to extreme lengths to owe their allegiance to best friends and peers seen as “powerful”, because of their need to belong in this new universe of school.
- They have started asserting power and control over their environment with a resolve to be successful.
- They have increasing self awareness, knowledge of logical reasoning, scientific facts, and other learning at school. They adore their class teacher.
However, they need guidance and emotional support from parents, in their daily life.
5 Guidance tips for parents
- Always “listen” to your children and try to find out what they really want to say to you.
Stay away from scolding and recriminations, or your child will start keeping things from you/ become secretive.
- Help your child to verbalize his/her feelings as well as to share them with you and the class teacher when the need arises.
Do help them to face and resolve negative feelings such as guilt, incompetence, being overassertive and controlling towards other children.
- Promote positive social interactions between your child and other children by promoting group interactions and healthy competition from time to time.
Use opportunities to identify areas where you may offer unobtrusive intervention, as a better guidance practice.
- A look at some of the sensitive social and emotional quotients of a parent:
- Do you feel competent in the role of a parent?
- Are you a non-judgmental person?
- Do you let your fears conquer you when it involves the safety of your child?
- Have you a “set” idea about the ‘what’ and ‘how’ your child should be?Take an inward look and try to resolve the above quotients to be a better parent and guide to your child.
Happy Guiding Parent!